Who Is Experiencing Your Best Self?

It’s so easy to get caught up in chasing a more secure financial future...

It’s tempting to put in a few extra hours of work in hopes to be rewarded with a bonus, or a raise, or simply a nod of acknowledgement and approval from your boss, or maybe even your spouse or in-laws.

We push ourselves harder and work a little longer. We drain ourselves in pursuit of material assets.

I love to put in work. I enjoy the gift of being able to put emotional labor into a project that is meaningful, that pushes against the edges of my comfort zone, and provokes others to think differently.

But the body of work we generously give to the world is only a piece of the larger purpose of life.

Arguably, the most important (and precious) asset we have are the children we raise. But we cannot invest powerfully in them if we are physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually weary during the few hours we have with them each day.

They need our engagement and presence more than anything. They deserve our best selves.

If you are interested in changing the world, it begins in the home.

This is a lesson I’m learning.

I struggle so much with turning off the piece of me that wants to create a financially secure future for my son. Constantly, I battle the deceptive voice in my head saying, “keep working, keep working, keep working. It’s not good enough yet. Keep working.”

And almost everyday, as I turn my attention to this voice, I ignore of the most important work that I literally hold in my hands every day…

…the work that deserves my best self.

…the work that requires a level of engagement and presence that often feels uncomfortable in a world of constant distraction.

…the work that needs me to show up powerfully as an authentic and courageous leader, a loving and generous husband, and a playful and passionate father.

Everyday, my most important work, the work that deserves my best self, is to raise a son who will one day outplay me, love better than me, lead more courageously than I could ever have dreamed, and become far more generous than I find comfortable.

To do that, he must be able to experience the best of me on a consistent basis. The growth that comes from a father/son (or father/daughter) relationship cannot be contracted out. It is our responsibility as leaders of our family to set boundaries around life's most valuable priorities.

Who deserves your best self? And are they experiencing it?